Change is necessary
Change is one of those inevitable things in life, yet it causes so much discomfort amongst many people. The usual reaction to change within people tends to be ” Why?” , it is also the reaction when life gives you some challenges and tough situations to deal with. It’s always “why is this happening to me?” or “why does it have to change? I don’t want it to change”. It takes some time for people to notice that change is unpredictable yet deep inside you will always know it will happen some time some day. Not all changes alarm us , only those that are related to things or people we truly care for.
Change will always be for good, sometimes at first glance you would disagree but after awhile you will see how this change made you stronger, more experienced or simply more happy. It’s impossible to avoid change and it’s not easy to accept it either but by accepting it we save ourselves from a phase of denial, minor depression( in some cases major) and being unable to let go of the past. It was actually one of my problems – not being able to let go of the past and always looking back at it and thinking how good it would have been if nothing have changed but EVERYTHING will change, and by being stuck in the past we forbid ourselves from enjoying the present and walking towards the future.
We simply have to accept that :
- “ People change, love hurts, friends leave, things go wrong but just remember life doesn’t stop for anybody.”
There are certain things that will have to end, everything has an expiration date. People and life will never be perfect and thus we continue to learn and develop everyday.
-” Sometimes there are things in life that aren’t meant to stay. Sometimes change may not be what we want. Sometimes change is what we need.”
Change will always happen for a reason, those people who walked out of your life after being a big part of your life have perhaps finished their role in your life. Never hold onto depression after lovers or friends have left you, there’s a reason why your relationship have changed and it’s a sign that you have tackled another lesson in your life and you’re ready to move on to the next level.
- “Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the known to the unknown. “
You might think ” No, I am fine the way I am I do not want change, I want everything to stay the same as they are” . Don’t be so silly, everybody can improve themselves even more, it does not mean you should be sad about this, you should be more than happy that there will always be room for improvement, there will aways be room for you to become the ‘even better you’.
You cannot stop change from happening, and attempting will only hurt and disappoint yourself so start accepting it. Remember that it will only bring you good.
I was deeply inspired by the daisies I’ve seen the week before when I was quite upset about something regarding change. You can see from the picture below that there are some beautiful daisies and beside them are some dead daisies. Without those dead daisies there wouldn’t have been these lively and beautiful daisies. Always remember that without the past which become the past after a phase of change, there will never be you as in the way you are now. Without change, we will never grow and develop, nothing will have any motion.
” if there is no struggle, there is no progress” - Frederick Douglass
“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” – Gail Sheehy
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